Experiencing premature ejaculation can take all the pleasure and fun out of sex. Premature ejaculation happens when a man releases semen (ejaculate) sooner than wanted during sexual activity. It usually happens within less than a minute after intercourse begins, which may signal both partners that sex should be over. Given this, premature ejaculation hinders pleasure and disables both partners from enjoying sex the way it should be experienced.
Most men may experience premature ejaculation at some point in their life. It is one of the most common sexual dysfunction experienced according to the AUA (American Urological Association) with 1 in 5 men aged 18-59 reporting a case of it.
How long does sex normally last?
Sex can be a very subjective thing, and that includes how long it’s supposed to be. Sex can last up to how long both partners want it to last. While others may prefer a sensual type of marathon that lasts long enough, some may prefer theirs to be quick and match their on-the-go lifestyle. There’s nothing with either. However long sex can last, as long as both partners are satisfied, then it doesn’t really count whether it is as short as 3 minutes, or as long as 20 minutes. Sex can be up to you and up to your partner. It’s a matter of personal (and partner’s) preference.
But to gauge the average time that most couples have sex, the Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR) conducted a survey to understand what constitutes a normal duration for sex in most couples. And according to sex therapists, these were the various durations on average: 3-7 minutes was considered just right; 7-13 minutes long was most desirable; 1-2 minutes sex was considered too short; and 10-30 minutes of sexual activity was deemed too long for couples.
Average time of premature ejaculation
Then again, there are various factors that impede sex from becoming enjoyable and one of them is the sexual dysfunction we know to be premature ejaculation. Sex doesn’t necessarily have to last a very long time, but there is also sex that’s too short and too quick, it barely makes up for a satisfying experience for both couples.
The average time a man ejaculates is said to be within 5 minutes and 30 seconds after penetration. Premature ejaculation occurs within less than a minute and 30 seconds after that, signaling the end of sex within less than 2 minutes after it started. This duration could hardly be pleasant and fulfilling to one’s partner, especially if it constantly happens and it’s never talked about.
There are various reasons why this happens, though. Premature ejaculation may be triggered by psychological factors such as depression, performance anxiety, emotions like guilt and fear, sexual abuse or trauma, or a poor body image. In some cases, it could also be due to biological factors such as having irregular hormone levels, chemical imbalances, an infection or inflammation of the urethra or prostate, and in some cases, it could be purely genetic. Given this, knowing the root cause of premature ejaculation will help to effectively treat the problem.
Is Premature Ejaculation permanent?
When it comes to this, is all hope lost when a man experiences premature ejaculation? The short answer is: no. The good news is that premature ejaculation doesn’t tend to be a permanent condition. There are various healthy solutions to treat this problem, although it must also address the main cause. There are a variety of strategies that can help a person to enhance their overall sexual experience amidst living with premature ejaculation.
In some cases though, premature ejaculation can be long-lasting for people who’ve experienced it right from the start, meaning, once they became sexually active. In such cases, premature ejaculation may be deeply rooted in psychological conditions or factors, which need to be addressed, to solve the sexual dysfunction itself. Interestingly, with the right intervention through psychological means or medical treatments, this can still be resolved.
Whereas if premature ejaculation is a symptom of a more serious health condition like multiple sclerosis, high blood pressure, or diabetes, it can still be managed but it may not come without some difficulties. Managing premature ejaculation for people with underlying health concerns must be done with the guidance of a doctor, as the solution to this problem may entail more than a single mode of treatment. In most cases, a combination of treatments will prove to be most effective and the safest one for the patient. To achieve that, a urologist or medical doctor mainly specializing with men’s health conditions must be consulted for expert care.
There are moments when premature ejaculation just happens, but does not really develop further into a serious condition. Most men would experience premature ejaculation at some point in their life, and it will go away naturally. Some of these could be during defining moments of a man’s sexual life too, when entering into a new relationship or when trying out a new sexual activity that’s largely unfamiliar to you. When approaching sex with a bit of anxiety, which is normal sometimes, premature ejaculation could occur. And just like that, it’ll also go away on its own, once the novelty is over and the anxious feelings are gone.
Premature ejaculation can be effectively treated using various methods including behavioral therapy, couples’ counseling, and medications such as selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) at the right dosage.
If premature ejaculation is triggered by some conditioning, countering it with the technique known as the “stop-start method” is often effective. The stop-start method is an exercise employed by most patients with premature ejaculation. It entails one’s partner stimulating their penis during sexual activity up until they are about to ejaculate, and stopping abruptly before doing so. This practice should be done at least three times and ejaculating should only happen during the fourth round. Doing this helps to keep the urge to ejaculate nearly at climax and to practice delaying the ejaculation process.
Premature ejaculation is a reality for many men, a condition that keeps them and their partners from fully enjoying sex. It happens when a man ejaculates too soon, at least within a minute and 30 seconds after intercourse. While there is no right length for sex, dealing with premature ejaculation can easily give any man feelings of anxiety and put unnecessary strain on his relationship if the matter remains undiscussed and unresolved.
But with every problem comes a solution. And premature ejaculation is another sexual dysfunction that doesn’t tend to be permanent, and can often be conquered with the right set of treatments. Most of the time this would be a combination of various treatments in the form of therapy and medication, which could be medically advised and prescribed by a doctor.
If premature ejaculation bothers you, know that it is not the end of your sexual life. Determining the cause of the problem is key to safe and effective treatment.
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